If you’re at all like me, you love to talk about yourself. Let’s change the way we do that. This Transformation Tuesday, we’re transforming our speech.
Do you ever stare at your diploma and wonder how you could possibly be considered an adult? (Maybe that’s just me but I have a lot of free time on my hands.) Do you feel like the “kid” at your entry-level job? Do you grumble when the waitress cards you when you’re out to dinner with work friends? Do the pushy businessmen and women on the train intimidate you with their Bluetooth headsets and dead stares? (Does anyone use Bluetooth headsets anymore? Am I making it obvious that I don’t commute?) If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, I have a quick tip that will allow you to identify as the adult whom you obviously already are.
Here it is: stop calling yourself a girl. Don’t call your friends girls, don’t call the guys fresh out of college in the finance department boys, and definitely don’t let anyone older than you refer to you as a child. (Unless they are your parents, in which case it would be weird if they didn’t refer to you as their child.) If you’re a female over eighteen, you’re a woman. Say it with me: WOMAN. The sooner you start identifying yourself as an adult, the sooner you’ll feel like an adult. An added bonus is that there are so many fun ways to use the word:
“As a woman in charge…”
“I’m the type of woman who…”
“Speaking for women in general…”
You’ll get drunk on power. Not really, but you might want to toss back a glass or two of red to practice saying it with your girls. Did you catch that? I mean your friends who are women!
In all seriousness, you have to command respect to get it. If you want others to see yourself and your peers as adults, you need to refer to yourselves as adults. It’s a change that’s simple and empowering, and you’ll seem a thousand times more competent in the workplace.
This week, I’m happy to introduce my wonderful friend Annie for the first-ever guest post on Life of La! Annie is truly one of the loveliest people I know, and she writes a blog on food and spirituality (what a fun combination, right?) called Breaking Bread. She’s agreed to share some of her thoughts for eating ethically as a twenty-something. I’m sure you’ll enjoy her writing as much as I do.
We’re all getting cabin fever these days – the calendar may have told us that spring arrived last Thursday, but the forecasted snow is starting to suggest otherwise. What is a twenty-something to do in a situation like this? How about try a fun and trendy challenge to spice things up as we wait for the weather to pick up? (more…)
I love this new campaign by the Girl Scouts and Sheryl Sandberg’s non-profit Lean In that seeks to #BanBossy. According to the website, young girls shy away from leadership roles once they discover that instead of being called a “leader,” like boys are, they’ll be branded “bossy” because of their gender.
Here are some fascinating facts from the campaign that might make you think twice before you use the “b-word”:
Between elementary and high school, girls’ self–esteem drops 3.5 times more than boys’.
Girls are twice as likely as boys to worry that leadership roles will make them seem “bossy.”
Girls get less airtime in class. They are called on less and interrupted more.
Check out what some of my favorite women have to say about banning bossy:
On Valentine’s Day, the seniors at my school celebrated 100 days until graduation with a ball. The night was special because only the senior class is invited and it’s one of the last times the whole grade gathers together before graduation. (more…)
This isn’t one of those posts where I present a question in the title then provide you with a neat answer once you read along. In fact, the answer is far from neat – I can hardly begin to tackle it. Let’s start with a quick definition before I lose any readers. To me, a feminist is a person who believes in the equality of women and men and one who doesn’t shy away from addressing or recognizing the instances of inequality that regularly affect our society. (more…)