What have you been up to?

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It’s been a while since I last posted, and things are looking different around here.  The leaves are changing, so it’s the 1% of the year when it’s actually pleasant to live in New England, I’ve painted my room so I feel like a productive adult, and I’ve settled into life as a non-college student.  What does that make me?  A real person?

Anyway, I’m sure you’ve missed me and I’m happy to fill you in on what I’ve been up to lately.  Besides job-searching (which is hard!) and substitute teaching (which is fun!) here’s what’s happening in the Life of La: (more…)

Funny Story…

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I don’t have much of an excuse for not blogging in so long, other than my life has become significantly less interesting since graduating from college. But I’m back now to share a horrifying/ hilarious personal story.

Yesterday at work I had the pleasure of plunging an incredibly clogged toilet. I work as a lifeguard at a summer camp, and hundreds of kids roll through our tiny beach each day, so I’ll never know who was responsible for this disaster (which is probably a good thing). After about four or five pumps of the plunger, I realized that I was making no progress and that this was a job for maintenance.  Foolishly deciding to go for one more last-ditch plunge, the unthinkable happened. (more…)

Why men are so important to feminism…

A longer return post is coming soon, but take twenty minutes out of your evening to watch this TED Talk.  Show it to the men (and women) in your life – the fight against sexism and misogyny is not a battle between the sexes, but rather one that men and women should take on together.

It’s interesting to think of this in relation to the #YesAllWomen movement, which you can learn about here and here. (In short, it argues that while it’s true that “Not All Men” are violent or demeaning towards women, “Yes All Women” have had to deal with at least one encounter with such a man.)

There’s a lot going on in terms of feminism and gender relations at the moment!  Thoughts?

Can you believe it’s already May?

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So I’ve taken a long hiatus from blogging, in part because of finals at school and in part because of this, but I’m back!  I’d love to share a few things from around the web that have captured my interest in the past couple of weeks.

My brother showed my mom and I this awesome TED Talk by Joshua Foer (this guy‘s brother) about memory.  Foer explains the right way to memorize, and it actually seems pretty fun!  Definitely worth twenty minutes of your time.

Lots of interesting material to think about here for any True Detective fans still befuddled by the entire series. (Start at the bottom for the beginning of a six part article.)

Ever been hit on and pulled the “I have a boyfriend” excuse to get someone to go away?  You’ll think twice after you read this, a really fascinating feminist perspective on how we define ourselves. (Thanks to my lovely friend Molly for sending me this!)

On a similar note, have you heard of gaslighting?  If you’ve ever been called “crazy” for saying something that someone else didn’t agree with, then it’s happened to you.  It’s a great concept to be aware of the next time you have a disagreement.

One of my favorite blogs, Humans of New York, did a piece for Vogue covering the Met Gala.

As always I’d love to hear any thoughts you have to share!  Enjoy the sunshine!

What’s your favorite piece of advice?

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I’m great at giving advice, but I’m not so good at receiving it.  (That’s really just a more tactful way of saying that I’m good at being critical of others but I whine and complain when others criticize me.)  As I near the end of my senior year, I’ve become less and less welcoming towards advice, as my adult life looms and my plans remain uncertain.  I’d love to share a piece of advice that I actually did appreciate with the hope that anyone feeling a bit anxious about where they’re headed in life can take it to heart the way that I did.

This fall, Pulitzer Prize winning author Junot Díaz visited my college and spoke about the craft of being a writer.  I spent half of his talk loudly laughing at his dry wit and the other half wildly scribbling down anything he said that sounded useful to me as a writer (this was a difficult task as he was a fountain of knowledge).

One point in specific stuck in my mind, though, and I’ve been coming back to it as I near graduation and face a daily deluge of questions about my future plans. (more…)

What do you do to center yourself?

Maybe “centering yourself” is a little too new-agey for what I’m talking about, but I think its crucial to have some calming practices to turn to when life gets stressful.  I wish I could say that I’m someone who goes for a run (I can’t make it down the block) or does yoga (I hate to sweat) or even meditates (my attention span seems to shorten every year), but I’m not.  I’m more likely to vent to a friend or flip on a tear-jerker when I need an emotional release.  I’d apologize for sounding like a walking (or crying) stereotype, but I’m being honest, and I’m willing to bet that a lot of my readers can relate.  I’m of the opinion that nothing good comes of stifling one’s emotions, which can make living with me a bit overwhelming at times.

So, I’m happy to share with my roommates, my family, my friends, my readers, and the internet at large, a wonderful suggestion from (more…)

What happens when you fail?

Your twenties are about more than party dresses and vino, although it'd be nice if they weren't.
Your twenties are about more than party dresses and vino, although it’d be nice if they weren’t.

If you’re like me, you probably imagined that your twenties would be filled with success and adventure.  Now, I’m only a little more than two and a half years into my twenties, but even at the ripe age of twenty-one I know that my idealization is far from true (as idealizations often are).  Of course it’s an exciting and happy time in a person’s life, but something I think few people consider is that while your twenties are a decade of change and excitement (think new relationships, challenging careers, disposable incomes, and other major life changes) they are also inevitably a decade with more failure than you’re probably used to.  Ironically, or unsurprisingly, depending on how you see it, most of these failures relate to these major life changes like relationships, careers, and the responsibility that comes with one’s own income.

If your childhood and teenage years are a time to grow up, your twenties are the time to figure out who you are.  In my own case, I’ve learned a lot about who I am from instances where I experienced failure or rejection. (more…)

What to Watch: The Grand Budapest Hotel

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I’d forgotten what a treat it is to go to the movies until my roommate Alannah and I spent a rainy afternoon this weekend watching The Grand Budapest Hotel.  When the weather is lousy it’s easy to select a film from your Netflix queue and lounge on the couch in the comfort of your own home, but watching a film in a theater is a totally different experience.  I love setting aside a couple of hours to become immersed in a movie.  There’s something about a dark theater and a booming sound system that draws me right into the action of a film.  (It also helps that many theaters ask patrons not to text during the film – how often are you in a room with a hundred other people where no one checks their phone for two hours?)

As for The Grand Budapest Hotel, I can’t speak highly enough of it. (more…)