Category: Transformation Tuesday

A little trick…

Do you ever have trouble motivating yourself to do something intimidating?  Whether it’s a big life change or a small, yet looming, decision, I have a little tip.  This sounds weird, but something I remind myself when I need a little boost in the right direction is that no matter important something seems to me, it’s ultimately pretty insignificant in the scheme of things.

This infographic and this video illustrate exactly what I’m talking about:

Recognizing the place we occupy in space and time is super overwhelming at first, but you can use it to your advantage.  Why not apply for your dream job?  Why wouldn’t you submit that application?  What’s stopping you from talking to that attractive stranger?  What does it matter if you fail or embarrass yourself?  Something that can seem huge to you in the moment seems so minute when you step back.  (Bonus tip: this perspective also works for bad days.)

I’ve been using this trick more and more as I make plans for my future and decide what my best path is.  After all, what does it matter if I go in the wrong direction?  A mistep is nothing in the long-run of your life.

Do you have any tricks that you use to movitate yourself?  I’d love to hear them.

 

Are you making any New Year’s Resolutions?

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I hope you had a wonderful Christmas!  Mine was so relaxing that I didn’t realize how long I’ve been away from my blog… whoops!  With the new year two days away, now’s as good a time as any to talk resolutions.

In the past, I’ve tried to set concrete goals like exercising at least three days a week or cutting certain foods out of my diet, but those resolutions start to feel restrictive.  And, as it turns out, I don’t take directions well – even from myself.  So this year I’m resolving to do two things that will help me to enjoy life even more, and I’m phrasing them as loosely as possible to take the pressure off.

Resolution 1: Spend less money.  I’ve told you about the treat yo’self motto… this upcoming year, I’m going to use it with a little more discretion so that when the time comes to make major life purchases, I can treat myself guilt-free.

Resolution 2: Write every day.  It’s fun to claim the title of a writer; it sounds creative and romantic.  Yet, at its heart, writing is often difficult and solitary, and it can be a struggle to get started.  My mantra for 2015 is “a writer is someone who writes every day.”  No page quotas, no set guidelines, no specific projects.  My only promise to myself is to put either pen to paper or fingers to keys for a few quiet moments every day and see where it takes me.

It’s easy to make resolutions, but the real work is in following through.  What are you resolving to do in 2015?  Are you anti-resolution?  Ever make any that made a positive difference in your life?  I’d love to hear!

Check back tomorrow for a round-up of year-end links.

P.S. Speaking of resolutions

(Image via Rap Genius)

Say it with me…

If you’re at all like me, you love to talk about yourself. Let’s change the way we do that. This Transformation Tuesday, we’re transforming our speech.

Do you ever stare at your diploma and wonder how you could possibly be considered an adult? (Maybe that’s just me but I have a lot of free time on my hands.) Do you feel like the “kid” at your entry-level job? Do you grumble when the waitress cards you when you’re out to dinner with work friends? Do the pushy businessmen and women on the train intimidate you with their Bluetooth headsets and dead stares? (Does anyone use Bluetooth headsets anymore? Am I making it obvious that I don’t commute?) If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, I have a quick tip that will allow you to identify as the adult whom you obviously already are.

Here it is: stop calling yourself a girl. Don’t call your friends girls, don’t call the guys fresh out of college in the finance department boys, and definitely don’t let anyone older than you refer to you as a child. (Unless they are your parents, in which case it would be weird if they didn’t refer to you as their child.) If you’re a female over eighteen, you’re a woman. Say it with me: WOMAN. The sooner you start identifying yourself as an adult, the sooner you’ll feel like an adult. An added bonus is that there are so many fun ways to use the word:

“As a woman in charge…”

“I’m the type of woman who…”

“Speaking for women in general…”

You’ll get drunk on power. Not really, but you might want to toss back a glass or two of red to practice saying it with your girls. Did you catch that? I mean your friends who are women!

In all seriousness, you have to command respect to get it. If you want others to see yourself and your peers as adults, you need to refer to yourselves as adults. It’s a change that’s simple and empowering, and you’ll seem a thousand times more competent in the workplace.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!

Thanksgiving Looks

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I had one of those weird dreams last night where I was running but it felt like my legs were underwater. So I went to the gym this afternoon and hopped on the treadmill (a different beast than my usual elliptical) to shake off my lead-footed dreams. Although I’m not a runner, I was pretty sure I would feel extra athletic on the treadmill this time. Wrong. Maybe the dream was less of an R.E.M. creation and more of a foreshadowing. The power walkers were moving faster than me. Running is no joke, friends, I barely made it to a quarter mile before I had to drop the treadmill down to walking pace.

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Transformation Tuesday: Give Up the Easy Mac

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Transformation Tuesday is about making positive changes to your life, and I’m starting with one of the areas of my life I most need to change – my eating habits.

I like to claim that I eat six small meals a day – very chic, I know – but that’s a lie. More accurately I snack the entire day. I’d go into what I eat, but I’d like to encourage people to read my blog, not drive them away in disgust. Let’s just say that if you compared my lunchbox with a kindergartner’s, you’d have a hard time telling which was mine until you saw my wine juicebox. (Kidding, friends, wine is an after-dark treat. Thankfully, it gets dark at 4:30 now.)

Anyway, in an effort to adopt a more adult palate and feel healthier, I’ve decided to tackle two tasks. The first is simple: cook more. The second is a horrific proposition: give up dairy for a month. Full disclosure, through no fault of my own besides, perhaps, sins in a past life, I’m lactose intolerant. Read: this may not be a bad move. I’m thinking of going dairy-free from Thanksgiving to Christmas (call me the Grinch) but I’ve yet to make the final call.

In the meantime, I’ve been reading one of Gwyneth Paltrow’s cookbooks for some inspiration. She occasionally goes off the edge and cuts gluten, dairy, sugar, alcohol, and everything else delicious out of her diet in the name of cleansing. I will never do that. Yet, lots of her recipes look fabulous and are dairy-free.

In other cooking news, I made my first family dinner in years the other night, and I was totally surprised that it didn’t suck! (Translation: it was really good.) You can find the recipe I used for oven-baked fajitas here.

Any other dairy queens or kings want to join the challenge with me? I promise almond milk is delicious…

Wednesdays are all about women on Life of La, so check back tomorrow to see what wild new claims feminists are making now! (Spoiler: none, really, we all just believe that men and women are equal.)

(Photo via Tumblr, Spaghetti Eating Contest in the 1950s)